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Specializing in Couples, Infidelity,

Relationships and Addiction

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Specializing in Couples, Infidelity,

Relationships and Addiction

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Why can relationships be so lonely?

The beginning of relationships…

You feel important, valued, and accepted. For the first time in your  life you feel complete and understood. Life is good, stress decreases, you are content, and you worry less.

After time…

It seems that your partner pays more attention to kids, pets, friends, work and other responsibilities.  Your partner is nicer to everyone else and takes their frustrations out on you. You  feel hurt, alone, disrespected, or unappreciated.  If you share these feelings with your partner, they get defensive and feel criticized or attacked.  You speak about the same issues repeatedly with no resolution.

You start thinking that life is too short…

Life circumstances make you start thinking that you cannot continue in your relationship the way it is.   You may begin to question your compatibility with your partner and think you are no longer in love.

What should you do…

I can help you create physical and emotional intimacy that you used to have or to get closer than you ever were.  I see couples reconnect all the time.  All relationships take work and go through rough times.  I have worked with couples who have survived infidelity, emotional distance, sexual issues, addictions (alcoholism, substance abuse, gambling, shopping, sex and love addiction) and get closer than they ever have been in therapy. It is never too late to change your relationship and recreate love.

I invite you to read more about my services. I see both individuals and couples for a variety of reasons. Please feel free to call or text with any questions. Situations might not change but perceptions can.

Statement of Pro-Marriage / Pro-Relationship Committment

I am a marital therapist that strongly believes that two willing individuals can sustain happiness and contentment if they are willing to do the hard work necessary to sustain their relationship.   This may involve changing the way spouses or partners communicate with one another, changing the way they address each other’s feelings and most importantly, learning how to validate each other’s feelings without feeling or sounding insincere. In a perfect world, divorce or the breakup of a relationship would almost never be an option because two individuals shared a connection that may not have been properly developed or has been neglected.

I have treated couples that most assuredly were heading for a divorce or relationship breakup. Many of these couples experienced underlying infidelities, Sex and Love Addiction(s), financial difficulties, issues regarding parenting difficult children, etcetera.   However, after focused and sustained marital therapy, many of these couples were able to not only continue in their relationship, but began to enjoy a closer relationship and a deeper connection than they ever thought was possible. I believe that the only barriers to recovery are what individuals place in their own paths.

The path to reconnecting takes willingness and commitment. I tend to be hands on and highly pro-active in setting therapeutic goals and solutions.   I find that the long-term benefits of recovery to couples and to children impacted by a poor marital or partner relationship far outweigh the more difficult, challenging and costly solution of a divorce or breakup.   Thus, my practice philosophy is to save the marriage or relationship if possible.

Three convenient locations: Northbrook, Arlington Heights and Libertyville

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